Philip, I can’t thank you enough for your thoughts. Worthy of an article on their own.

Unfortunately, the kind of help someone truly needs may also not be the help they desire. I find your logic intact and your reasoning very interesting. I particularly like your Buddhist axiom of the wind blowing. That seems to apply to a variable of situations; whether it be the sad situation of another, or the hatred of another, or even the expectations of another. The wind ought not move us in the direction it desires.

I also have been thinking about your story. Helping the driver of the car, even with good intentions, contributed to a tragic outcome. Yet here it seems that the direct (and only) responsibility of the action was the immediate situation. What happened beyond that particular point does not seem contingent upon the person who helped. At least in a western perspective that would seem to be the case. But your point is solid, a good deed, done with a good desire, ended in a lose for someone.

Philip, I really appreciate that you took time to respond to me and that you did sos with thinking. It would be an honor for me to have you as a friend.